The hospital decided to release me on Halloween of that year, and because my son was still in the NICU I went back and forth from my apartment to the hospital for the last bit of his stay. When it was time for him to come home, Elizabeth and her boyfriend picked us up and brought us back to the apartment and helped me set up our mattress in the only bedroom as I didn’t have the time previously to set it up myself due to going back to work.
At that point my life as a new mother began again.
I put my son to sleep, and he slept the whole entire evening until he woke up in the middle of the night for me to feed him.
When I woke up the next day I had a sense of depression come over me. I felt so alone in that apartment. My son was still asleep, so I had time to process everything that had been happening to me. Again, my fiance is in Africa, so there was very little he could do to contribute to our son’s life. There was a song that was playing in my head, called “I Miss You” by Aaron Hall, which added to my depression because I missed my fiance so much. I decided to watch the video on my phone. Although that probably wasn’t the best idea.
The song is about a couple who either the girlfriend or wife become pregnant and while in her third trimester of the pregnancy, the girl begins having contractions. Her man rushes her to the hospital and finally gives birth to a baby boy, but she was not responding. Time goes by and apparently, her man gets a call from the hospital and rushes back with a friend. But when they got there it was too late. His girlfriend passed away from complications, so he ended up being a single father.
From that moment on, I tended to have sad songs playing in my head a lot. There were days that I felt good, but the pressure of finances and my baby’s father not being around made it very difficult to cope with everything. I dealt with it, but it seems as if I ended up with postpartum depression.
I couldn’t blame it on my son because he didn’t ask for this. I had to make it work for both of our well-being. I depended on government assistance for food stamps, as well as receiving Medicaid assistance for my son’s medical needs. But the most they awarded me was $241 a month! What can a mother with a newborn really do with $241 a month? But that wasn’t the worst of it…
I was supposed to go back to work on December 8, 2014. Shortly before that I got a call from the staffing agency that had placed me at Express Scripts. They told me that the company no longer needed me. Actually, I was on my way at the library with my son when the call came. I was so devastated that when I got to the library at first I didn’t even get out of the car. However, eventually I did and got to do what I had to do.
Somewhere around March 2015, I slowly began to get back on my feet. I went back to work at the job I had been working weekends for, which was the Hyatt Regency Orlando. I started working for them again in late January or early February. Also at that time I became a full-time employee because I needed the money.
So from the time I brought my son home in November 2014 until March 2015 I was financially unstable and only received little assistance from my church. They helped me with a few of my bills, but I was still behind on my car note and some other bills.
Becoming a mother again so late in life can be challenging, but I wouldn’t change it for anything!